Let’s Talk: Relationships

 The Bible is clear about the importance of not being unequally yoked. Just as a pair of animals that are unequally yoked struggles with their work, so too can relationships that lack unity and shared purpose become burdensome and difficult. This principle is crucial not only for romantic relationships but also for the ministry and mission that your future marriage—or any partnership—is called to fulfill. While love and romance have their place, the ultimate goal of marriage is to reflect the relationship between Christ and the Church, sanctify us, and glorify the Lord.

Understanding The Context

I’m speaking to those who are IN CHRIST. If you don’t believe in the Word of God or have a relationship with Christ, this message may not resonate with you. (It’s important to note that you can’t have a relationship with someone if you don’t know or trust them.) For those who do believe, the concept of being equally yoked might look different depending on whether you are new to the faith or more mature in it. However, if Christ is not the foundation of your relationship, challenges will inevitably arise. As Matthew 7:24-27 reminds us, when the storms of life come, only a relationship built on the rock—Christ—will stand firm.

The Power Of Prayer In Relationships

In everything, including dating, it’s crucial to PRAY PRAY PRAY. Invite God into your relationship early on. Don’t wait until you’ve made up your mind or fallen in love to seek His guidance. Remember, God desires for your relationship and marriage to be successful even more than you do. So, be rooted in God’s vision of a successful relationship rather than the world’s standards.

Broad Application Of The Unequally Yoked Principle

The principle of being equally yoked extends beyond marriage to include platonic, work, and organizational relationships. As you reflect on the scripture below, pray and ask God to reveal any current relationships or associations that may be hindering your ability to fulfill your calling or live out your purpose. Once God reveals these areas, don’t cling to them more than you cling to God and His Word.

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, ‘I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.’” — 2 Corinthians 6:14-18

For Those Already Married

If you are already married and found Christ while your partner has yet to, see 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 for guidance on how to navigate your relationship.

May we all seek to honor God in every relationship, ensuring that our connections reflect His light and truth.